Last night, we were discussing my tedious and very challenging financial situation and he asked me the hypothetical question of “Would I sleep with someone for $50 grand?” My immediate answer was no. Full stop. No questions asked. He then asked if I would sleep with someone for $100 grand and again my answer was a resounding no. Just quietly at this point, I was wondering where on earth this was going and whether I was about to get a job offer in which case I would be seriously reviewing my answers lol. He then raised the amount to $1 million. Although I did admit that I did hesitate on answering this one, I did say no again. Great topic for a movie, don’t you think lol. It brings about three separate issues being - the fact that it is, in effect, prostitution; the affect it would have on a relationship; and most importantly, the affect it would have on me.
I thought I was doing really well standing on my moral pedestal, vehemently replying with the “Hell Nos”. Then Rhett started to make some very valid points about the pros of accepting such a proposal and effectively countered each of my contentions, providing a great debate and food for thought – love it. It really challenged my ethical boundaries and gave me a great opportunity to delve further into the mysterious space that is my mind and these so called high values I pander to.
The big point of difference between our arguments were our methods of justifying our respective side. Rhett was taking the GO FOR stance and approaching it from a purely business/logical point of view. He set the ground rules that it would be a one time deal, no strings attached and if I was in a relationship at the time, it was something that both partners needed to agree to. He agreed there could be small emotional consequences but the fee surely could justify that. I think there was the commission seed planted discreetly in there too lol. Just imagine what I could accomplish with the money! What person in their right mind would knock back any of those amounts of money for the sake of a few hours work, so to speak. Well it does make sense, doesn’t it?
My side of the fence was, quite obviously, NO GO from an emotional and future consequence point of view. My first point of contention was the whole ‘prostitution is illegal’ thing however I know enough about business to know that this can be structured legally, albeit with a lot of time and red tape (tax man would love it though). My main contention surrounds the emotional after effects that would no doubt raise their ugly heads after this transaction had taken place. If I was single, could I live with myself knowing that I had willingly prostituted for the sake of money. Having said that, I could argue that I have already done in my past, in the form of underpaid, undervalued and overworked employs within businesses who royally screwed me, lol. If I was in a relationship, regardless of it being a joint decision to accept the proposal, how on earth could my partner totally trust me again? How would I feel that my partner supported the idea of me having sex with another man at all, let alone for money?
It certainly brings new dimension to the word infidelity... or does it? Hmmm maybe it’s time to delve into the meanings of a few of the words that I throw around when ranting about infidelity. The dictionary states that infidelity is "unfaithfulness or disloyalty, especially to a sexual partner". It also states that "unfaithfulness means to be untrue to commitments". If both of us in the relationship agreed to the proposal, isn’t that a new commitment in and of itself? Disloyalty means a lack of loyalty to a person but is this really the case either?
Ultimately, in this whole wondrously hypothetical situation, the only question that really needs to be addressed is “How would I feel about myself if I went through with this fantasy proposal?” When I really sat with this floating around in my mind space, it was with a great deal of shock that I got my answer.. which was the realisation that I simply don’t have an answer. I really don’t know what I would do if I was looking at a guaranteed one million dollars and being asked for a decision right now. Would there need to be attraction between the consenting parties? Would I need to perform brilliantly and outside my normal square? Would there need to be a contract? It’s all and fine to take an ethical high ground in hypothetical situations but in reality, it is a whole different ball game. I do know that I value value myself highly and trust that I would have to have extremely good reasons for me to seriously consider a proposal such as this. I also know is that if I did, it would not be for less than $1 million – I know my monetary value and that is a good starting point lol.
So for once, I seriously don’t have a straight answer (very unusual for me) to a very interesting conundrum but I do agree with Rhett in his suggestion that it is intriguing enough to blog about. My final summation in this lively debate with was the suggestion that if Rhett ever happens to come across someone who is actually willing to pay me one million dollars for my wares, then we would revisit this discussion again. I think I am very safe here as really, come on, who would ever offer me that proposal lol. So the big question of whether I accept an Indecent Proposal or not could very well remain forever unanswered.
Special thanks to inspirational muse Rhett – you could prove to be a great wealth of topics in the future lol.
Take care and bye for now!
Smiles,
Meg :)
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Good one Megs ... :-)
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